Because it often happens behind closed doors and not in the open, childhood neglect and/or abuse are very hard to deal with while one or both are happening. Childhood neglect and abuse are traumas that take time and care to overcome or overcome completely. Nevertheless, if you are going through the lingering effects of childhood neglect and/or abuse, therapy could be a good option for you.
Loneliness is a common feeling that we all might have experienced at one time or another, but you might be experiencing a more severe, crippling form of loneliness that can make it harder to be motivated, or be social, and otherwise function in your day-to-day life. If you are struggling with crippling loneliness, then you should know that it is never too late to start working on overcoming it and the underlying factors that contribute to such severe distress. If you are ready to start tackling your loneliness or you just feel like you need someone to talk to about your loneliness, then therapy could be a good option for you. I am here to provide you with treatment for your feelings of aloneness and can help you take the first steps to overcome the loneliness you are experiencing.
Depression is so common that it likely affects at least one person you know. Some people are fortunate enough to be diagnosed with depression, but many others suffer without a diagnosis, wondering why they feel the way they do.
Depressive episodes can be short-term and feel easily overcome at their best, or like life isn’t worth living anymore at their worst. The feeling may only come on as sadness or listlessness, but it may also manifest in ways that may not seem related to your mood, like changes in appetite or problems concentrating.
What depression is not, is something you just “get over.” Depression needs the attention of professionals like any other serious medical condition.
Loneliness counseling can help you. Many people protect themselves from this painful feeling by keeping busy or finding themselves needing to check the next device. Loneliness may not always be obvious.
Others find themselves going from partner to partner without a break —pulled to seek out another relationship as fast as possible as soon as one ends. The feeling may just be a “need” to always be on the go; on to the next thing one “must-do”; or “shoulds” and “have tos” feel unbearably compelling. Loneliness counseling is a great way to deal with this.
But we are social beings. We need to connect deeply with others. Running frantically from thing to thing or person to person is a way to ensure that this will not happen.
On the other hand, you may feel your loneliness. You may feel like you don’t belong, or don’t feel connected to others .. maybe you’re feeling isolated, like an outcast, or just plain unwanted.
You may find yourself believing your friends don’t really care about you, or like you can’t seem to find people who will connect with you, or like you have no one to call on in a time of need.
When we are low in self-esteem, have trouble believing in ourselves; have problems knowing who we are and finding things in life that will bring us gratification; find we have serious problems in relating to others and maybe avoiding connections, or are trying too hard to please and are even putting up with people who cannot see us, or hear us for, or are even finding ourselves putting up with verbal, emotional, or physical abuse; or maybe when we do have emotion it is clearly too intense for the situation, or perhaps we cannot seem to access or share our feelings and emotions; or when we find our thoughts are fearful, negative, or self-attacking — we are probably people who were mistreated as children.
Thus, the way we are treated when young and just developing not only makes us miserable as children but seriously impacts: our self-regard or sense of self; our relationships with others; our ability to succeed in work, and generally in our ability to lead a content and satisfactory life as adults.
If your feeling unmotivated, sad and low, wanting to retreat and avoid people, or weeping at the drop of a hat, likely you are suffering from depression and grief.
Maybe you have lost someone you treasured and can’t seem to “get over it”. Or maybe you are sad and dragging about but do not really know what is wrong.
The advantage of seeing a therapist for these problems has been proven time and again. And the more experience a therapist may have, the more likely they can help you quickly get to the root of your distress.
Psychotherapy can give you a place to share your feelings and experiences so they can be processed and alleviate your suffering.
If this sounds like your life right now, maybe it is time to take the next step and share your heartache with a compassionate and knowledgeable psychotherapist like Dr. Lynn Winsten in Berkeley.