Loneliness counseling can help you.  Many people protect themselves from this painful feeling by keeping busy or finding themselves needing to check the next device. Loneliness may not always be obvious.

Others find themselves going from partner to partner without a break —pulled to seek out another relationship as fast as possible as soon as one ends. The feeling may just be a “need” to always be on the go; on to the next thing one “must-do”; or “shoulds” and “have tos” feel unbearably compelling. Loneliness counseling is a great way to deal with this.

But we are social beings. We need to connect deeply with others. Running frantically from thing to thing or person to person is a way to ensure that this will not happen.

On the other hand, you may feel your loneliness. You may feel like you don’t belong, or don’t feel connected to others .. maybe you’re feeling isolated, like an outcast, or just plain unwanted.

You may find yourself believing your friends don’t really care about you, or like you can’t seem to find people who will connect with you, or like you have no one to call on in a time of need.

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Anxiety is an emotion that lets us know something has happened to frighten us.  If you experience anxiety often or intensely, you are likely looking for relief. 

You may know that there are both healthy and unhealthy coping strategies and some that only help in the short run, and others that are long term solutions.

Sometimes when the waves of anxiety come crashing down, it is difficult to know which healthy path to choose. Consistent anxiety therapy can help to provide stability when these feelings hit and provide alternatives to the addictive or compulsive behaviors that can perpetuate the anxiety.

Anxiety, stress, and fear can also be tied to past trauma, and talking with a good therapist or psychologist can help you understand how your past is impacting how you feel today.

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Perhaps you have been impacted by childhood trauma or you are currently struggling with life’s difficulties. You wonder if what you are feeling is normal or if you should be able to handle it on your own, but sometimes it all just feels like too much.

It has been 20 years since your traumatic childhood experience but you just can’t seem to get over it like you think you should.

Sure – you had to grow up fast and figure out how to get by when your parents were always gone or when one of them came home drunk again, but that was a long time ago.

Could it possibly still be impacting you?

The answer is “yes” and it is ok to admit that you are not ok. There is a trauma counselor in your area who is passionate about helping people just like you work through their childhood trauma and get on the road to healing.

As an adult, you feel like stress is just a fact of life and if everyone else deals with it pretty well, you can too.

But if you are really honest, you would say that you are overwhelmed and just surviving, barely making it through each day and unwilling to admit how you are really doing, even to yourself.

Deep down, you know that stuffing your emotions is not healthy, but what other choice do you have?

Why not talk with a licensed therapist who has helped many people in your same situation learn how to embrace their emotions and cope with stress in healthy ways, changing “surviving” into “thriving”?

Dr. Lynn Winsten is an excellent resource in Berkeley if you have experienced child abuse, neglect, trauma, relationship problems, or any other emotional imbalance in life.

She will help to analyze the root cause of the problem and create a plan for getting your life back to the way you wanted it to be.


Healthy relationships are probably the most important factor that leads to a fulfilling life.  When we can feel loved and lovable and care deeply for others, our lives have more depth and meaning.

Many people suffer greatly by maintaining unhealthy connections that only bring distress and keep them from their best selves, or by avoiding connection altogether. 

These persistent problems not only impact our mental health but affect our physical health as well. When your relationships are suffering or are nonexistent, it is best to reach out to a relational psychologist for help. 

Dr. Lynn Winsten in Berkeley is trained to work in this way.

Through understanding your current patterns of relating, your therapist can help you see where things may have gone awry your development. 

That is where we learn to relate and how we will come to relate in our adult lives. Exploring these issues in a safe environment can heal your wounds, help you to connect healthfully, and thus help your life to become fulfilled.