Loneliness counseling can help you.  Many people protect themselves from this painful feeling by keeping busy or finding themselves needing to check the next device. Loneliness may not always be obvious.

Others find themselves going from partner to partner without a break —pulled to seek out another relationship as fast as possible as soon as one ends. The feeling may just be a “need” to always be on the go; on to the next thing one “must-do”; or “shoulds” and “have tos” feel unbearably compelling. Loneliness counseling is a great way to deal with this.

But we are social beings. We need to connect deeply with others. Running frantically from thing to thing or person to person is a way to ensure that this will not happen.

On the other hand, you may feel your loneliness. You may feel like you don’t belong, or don’t feel connected to others .. maybe you’re feeling isolated, like an outcast, or just plain unwanted.

You may find yourself believing your friends don’t really care about you, or like you can’t seem to find people who will connect with you, or like you have no one to call on in a time of need.

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When we are low in self-esteem, have trouble believing in ourselves; have problems knowing who we are and finding things in life that will bring us gratification; find we have serious problems in relating to others and maybe avoiding connections, or are trying too hard to please and are even putting up with people who cannot see us, or hear us for, or are even finding ourselves putting up with verbal, emotional, or physical abuse; or maybe when we do have emotion it is clearly too intense for the situation, or perhaps we cannot seem to access or share our feelings and emotions; or when we find our thoughts are fearful, negative, or self-attacking — we are probably people who were mistreated as children.

Thus, the way we are treated when young and just developing not only makes us miserable as children but seriously impacts: our self-regard or sense of self; our relationships with others; our ability to succeed in work, and generally in our ability to lead a content and satisfactory life as adults.

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If your feeling unmotivated, sad and low, wanting to retreat and avoid people, or weeping at the drop of a hat, likely you are suffering from depression and grief.

Maybe you have lost someone you treasured and can’t seem to “get over it”.  Or maybe you are sad and dragging about but do not really know what is wrong.

The advantage of seeing a therapist for these problems has been proven time and again.  And the more experience a therapist may have, the more likely they can help you quickly get to the root of your distress. 

Psychotherapy can give you a place to share your feelings and experiences so they can be processed and alleviate your suffering.

If this sounds like your life right now, maybe it is time to take the next step and share your heartache with a compassionate and knowledgeable psychotherapist like Dr. Lynn Winsten in Berkeley.  

 

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A life fully lived forces us to constantly adapt to change:  a new baby, a new relationship, marriage, divorce, illness, a new career, to name a few. 

Each of these events causes stress to various degrees depending on how well we were biologically and physically and emotionally prepared we were to deal with them. Sometimes we just need a good therapist to talk to. Someone we can rely on to help us through tough times.

All of us try to cope the best we are able to each of these events, but sometimes we feel sad or scared when we should be happy, or we feel stuck and like we cannot go forward, or maybe we just feel overwhelmed and hopeless.

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Anxiety is an emotion that lets us know something has happened to frighten us.  If you experience anxiety often or intensely, you are likely looking for relief. 

You may know that there are both healthy and unhealthy coping strategies and some that only help in the short run, and others that are long term solutions.

Sometimes when the waves of anxiety come crashing down, it is difficult to know which healthy path to choose. Consistent anxiety therapy can help to provide stability when these feelings hit and provide alternatives to the addictive or compulsive behaviors that can perpetuate the anxiety.

Anxiety, stress, and fear can also be tied to past trauma, and talking with a good therapist or psychologist can help you understand how your past is impacting how you feel today.

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Healthy relationships are probably the most important factor that leads to a fulfilling life.  When we can feel loved and lovable and care deeply for others, our lives have more depth and meaning.

Many people suffer greatly by maintaining unhealthy connections that only bring distress and keep them from their best selves, or by avoiding connection altogether. 

These persistent problems not only impact our mental health but affect our physical health as well. When your relationships are suffering or are nonexistent, it is best to reach out to a relational psychologist for help.

Dr. Lynn Winsten in Berkeley is trained to work in this way.

Through understanding your current patterns of relating, your therapist can help you see where things may have gone awry in your development.

That is where we learn to relate and how we will come to relate in our adult lives. Exploring these issues in a safe environment can heal your wounds, help you to connect healthfully, and thus help your life to become fulfilled.